Seth writes a blog post EVERY DAY, and actually writes 4 or 5 each day, and selects what goes into the queue for publishing.
It occurs to me, that when I get a grand idea, I’ve been expecting myself to think up LOTSof material to flesh it out completely. While a long blog post has value, and sometimes Seth posts some very long ones, a short note can also keep the flow going.
From now on, I’ll try to emulate Seth and keep them to a much smaller bite.
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My blog post of course, with my pithy / brilliant remarks in RED.
Dunbar’s Number suggests that we can only keep between 150 and 200 social relationships, maximum.
Now we all know (and supposedly care about) FAR MORE people than that. Here’s where Dunbar’s Number and the problem of communication come together:
How do you stay in touch with 500 people, let alone 1000, 1500, or 2000?
Let that sink in…
If you rely on your memory, your communications will be sporadic at best, and likely they will be quite shallow and superficial. Where’s the love? Will they think you really care about them at all? Unlikely.
YOU NEED A GOOD SYSTEM TO REMIND YOU!!!
I say “good” system, because it doesn’t need to be perfect. All you need to be is better than everyone else, and almost EVERYONEis really terrible at it. Sorry folks, even you sales types are really, REALLY bad at it too!
It’s time for the math again (I apologize, but it illustrates the problem and solution properly).
If you have let’s say 500 to keep the numbers manageable, (they get crazy if we go bigger, and WE ALL NEED TO GO BIGGER!) school chums, work associates from over the years, family members, extended-family members, neighbors, and close friends that you’ve made from any of these sources, and of course your mate.
Daily communication to your mate. Try to say something nice to her / him everyday.
OH! I need to emphasize this: Make your communications (other than to your mate) during the WORK WEEK! If you communicate all 7 days, your family will feel ignored, and won’t feel the love from you. At all costs, keep your communications for the work week! Try to save your marriage, and your relationships with your kids.
Okay, that said, back to my normally scheduled post…
Say you’ve got 40 people from the above list that you need to communicate with monthly. (500 – 40 = 460)
Your mate, daily. 460 – 1 = 459
And the rest, (459) Quarterly 459 / 12 weeks = 38.25 communications per week
Now, let’s add back in the rest: daily communication with your mate: 7
Family, close friends and neighbors 40 / mo / 4 = 10 / week
That’s 38.25 communications per week for School chums, extended family, and work associates. 7 per week for your mate, and neighbors, family and close friends 10.
That’s 56 per week (11+ per DAY) !!!
That’s a LOT of communication.
It works out to 2,920 INDIVIDUAL communications per year!
Quite literally, ALMOST NOBODYis doing this!
How long, (without a system in place to remind you) before people start to fall between the cracks?
How can you help anyone if they forget you are there? Remember, I’ve already stated the [completely true!] premise that almost everyone is REALLY BAD at communicating. How can you remind them that you are available to help them, if you are forgetting that THEY exist? Unless you are communicating regularly with those folk, what kind of relationship do you have with them. “I know them, or used to. They know me, or used to.”
That’s NOTHING, and worse than useless:It sets up the premise in your mind that “My network of friends, colleagues, family members and acquaintances is valuable to me”. It’s nothing of the sort. Unless you communicate regularly, they (because ofDunbar’s Number) aren’t even going to think of you, and you won’t think of them until you get into trouble!
I have one friend from Junior High School (called Middle School in a lot of places), that has 1441 friends on Facebook and undoubtedly many more from other places. It’s a collection, worth absolutely nothing, because he will [Facebook] friend a person, and never speak/message/type any personal (“Remember when…?”) communication with them.
I have another friend in the film industry (filmmaker, actor, director, special effects, etc.) that has 1,200 contacts (not a collection, but VALUABLE to him in that he communicates with them REGULARLY. He has a system that reminds him at least quarterly, if not every six-weeks.
I CHOOSE NOT TO, because I don’t like the interruption in my daily / weekly workflow that Outlook enforces. I may be working on a project or several projects that I can’t take my attention off of during a particular workday or days. I usually have time later in the same week to crank out those correspondences. I much prefer using an Excel spreadsheet (with conditional formatting) to help me keep on track.
Send me your email address and I’ll freely send that spreadsheet (without my contacts, sorry) to you for your use.
Hmm. A trend that we’ve noticed at our house as well.
Traditional TV is essentially DOOMED! (Don’t worry, it’s only change. Traditional media will change to meet demand, like any industry, OR (appropriately) go away. I almost never watch network TV anymore, usually only YouTube.
Mark Cuban is a smart guy that spends his time/money breaking systems (if you have something that works, and you want to scale it from 5 to 50 to 500, you’ll need to try something new. That something new may BREAK it.)
I just came upon this article/video in my daily reading from lifehacker.com
It also ties directly with what Alan Watts said in a speech (I can’t remember which one right now, but when I do, I’ll post it), about how people work at a job they hate just to make money so they can go on living and working at a job that they hate.
I got killed with text messages last month. Our plan has ZERO text messages built into it, so ANY texts cost $$$.
Friends, it needs to stop.
By stop, I mean CHANGE!!! 😀
It’s no secret that the Telcos are making a huge killing off of us in text messaging. It’s also a little known secret that there are a few ways around this. The Facebook Messenger apps for iPhone and for Android are a good choice.
These push what would have been a SMS text message through Facebook, to your friend/family member’s Facebook Message Inbox (on their computer/tablet, AND on their phone!)
How cool is that? 😉
So, in a nutshell: You circumvent the telco rule of no free texts by pushing it through your data plan (hopefully you have plenty of data). If you are somewhere that has free Wi-Fi (McDonalds, Sam’s Club, Starbucks, HOME, etc.), you can even cut a corner there by logging in, and not using any of your data plan while you are there.